When people hear the word counseling they cringe. They feel that there is something wrong with them if they should need counseling but that is the farthest thing from the truth. Here we will discuss when you need a counselor and what the roadblocks are to people getting help.
1. The Stigma: Yes, there is a stigma that people place on counseling and therapy which is the worse of the dirty words out of the two. Thanks to media and Hollywood we now believe that people who seek therapy are nuts and we feel bad for even thinking of it.
2. The Cost: The one thing that holds people back from getting help can be the cost. The state does lend some help but many don’t qualify. So, many don’t receive the help they need because of the cost. How many people do you know that can afford $75-$100 dollars an hour? Not many.
3. Disagreements: If it’s a family or couple in trouble—then disagreements between couples as far as how they feel about getting the help they need. Normally one party Is adverse to telling a stranger what their issues are. And the other feels it important that they do.
4. Signs you need counseling: There are signs you need help or your family or relationship has come to the point of needing help. Below are some important warning signs that will tell you that you may need to consider getting some help.
5. Communication has Stopped: When your family or spouse has stopped communicating in a healthy way or at all. This means you are in danger of losing that relationship. So, this may be time to approach the person you are with or your child—whoever you are partnered with in life and attack the situation positively without attacking the person. This means you need to be able to say the right words in the right way. Remember that most people are adverse to therapy of any kind and if you tell them the wrong way that you feel they are in need of any help it will seem as if you are the one making them the problem. One suggestion is taking it all to yourself. Saying that you love them and maybe it’s you but you feel we should talk to a trained person just to see if we can establish communication again.
6. A Loved one has Strange Behavior: We all change—it’s a part of life. Sometimes we just have to understand and accept that someone in our lives is changing—even ourselves. But when it gets destructive to the relationship we have to take charge and try to understand what’s happening so we can support the person who is in effect—changing. If the change is something dangerous—like we suspect there is substance abuse—or the person has become violent or verbally abusive—then we have to get specialized help. If the person who is exhibiting the behavior—then we have to make sure the victim of that behavior gets help.
7. We are Depressed: Exhibiting signs of depression doesn’t not mean we are huddled up in a corner crying. On the contrary—it could mean—that you are more withdrawn or confused. It could mean that you are foggy or lethargic and you’ve lost interest in the things you used to find pleasure in.
Counseling by no means—means that you are crazy or unwell in any way. It doesn’t mean you are a failure—it just means you’re human.